Today's Topic (with no puns whatsoever intended): Why Good Is Sometimes Bad

Yes...yes...everybody's been through it...EVERYONE...should we be good to avoid the bad? or should we be bad so that the good can shine? Happens in every occasion possible...in family...relationships..even...friends...
No...I'm not affliating on anything in particular (sometimes i'm doubting whether i should be good with my entries as well)...

Being good...what are the advantages:
1) No guilt conscious
2) Happiness
3) Nobody hates you...(or so you think...)
4) Nothing bad will come out of it (again...or so you think)

But we question ourselves...is being good worth it? Should we always have to bend our heads down and step back? are we being made use or taken advantage of? are we being truthful to ourselves? is there room to actually disagree or say no? well...obviously...these questions bring disadvantages:
1) Are you really happy?
2) Are you being too good?
3) What are the odds that you have not been used?
4) Are you going to be made use of in future?
5) Do you think you'll make everyone else happy by not having an opinion of yourself?

True...it's always safer to be good...more friends that agree with you...you don't get in trouble and have to deal with sticky situations...but...there'll always be a scenario whereby you have to be bad...to be good...
Let's say: You're a friend of Person...er...B...and you think B needs a change...in whatever area...and you long to tell B the truth...but you're keeping it to yourself...why?
1) You don't want to hurt B's feelings
2) After hurting B...you're afraid of losing B as your friend
3) After not befriending B, you're afraid B will hate you...
Isn't that right?

But by being Good...you're not doing anything to be better:
1) B wouldn't know B's mistakes
2) B will continue making the same mistakes...and you'll be more miserable
3) You're making B learn the mistakes the hard way (which sucks even more)

Well...let's see this in a different perspective...
By not telling B...you'll have to tolerate somemore of the 'imperfect' B...besides...maybe others see what you see that's wrong in B...you'll be helping on the behalf of some people when you tell B...and if B won't understand this...but in the process of hurting B or whatever, you're HELPING B by becoming a better person...a person that would one day be accepted and liked again by other people...including yourself...it's a win/win situation...both parties are happy...you'll feel good about yourself...B will feel good too...because B will come to realise that B has become a better person...

Of course...nothing will go smoothly...DO expect arguments..conflicts even...but people grow and move on...all you have to do...is play your part and move on...every second that's gone...is already the past...all you can do now..is pray and work for a better future...therefore...adjustments and improvisations had to be made...
I've learnt from MY own mistakes from MY friends since primary school...and i hope that all of you would too because NOBODY'S PERFECT...

Fell asleep before 10:48 PM